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I’m going to share with you something today…

This can literally make or break you in life and business.

I’m an emotional person. 

I’m empathetic to the point that other people’s problems can make me physically ill. 😷🤒🤮

A lot of times this empathy is a good thing, especially when dealing with sales or counseling/coaching people.


It’s easy for me to put myself in other people’s shoes. 

I would go so far as to say I’m more comfortable wearing someone else’s shoes than my own.

 The plumber’s pipes are always leaking and all that.  🙃


The unfortunate side of being emotional… 

I’m also prone to making rash “gut” decisions based on the feelings of the moment rather than thinking things through.

That being said, I had to learn this one simple phrase that I’ll share with you in a moment.


Believe it or not, success isn’t always about the choices you make.

Success can often be about the choices you decide not to make.


Hua Jing or Neutralizing Power is a technique used in the practice of tai chi chuan to counterbalance or make ineffective the attacking ability of an opponent.

Well my friends, in case you didn’t know this, you are going to often be your most worthy adversary


What am I saying?

Sometimes doing nothing is all you need to win.


Example: Facebook ads. 

I’m a sucker for a good advertisement.

There was a point in our life when my garage was so full of Amazon boxes that we ran out of room!

To fix this…

I’ve learned that if I can just save the ad and come back to it at a later date, I won’t be caught up in the moment and get sucked into some clever advertisers click funnel.

The result: I don’t end up with a set of “really cool” kitchen knives in two weeks that I didn’t need. 

And my garage has a LOT fewer boxes taking up space.


Hua Jing or Neautrilizing Power means hold offDo nothingTHINK ABOUT IT.

Facebook Ads are a shallow example, I know. 

But Hua Jing, Neautral Jing as I refer to it. Can be applied to many, many, many if not ALL choices that come across your path, at least for a time. 




>>>Here’s the nugget. 🥇<<<

Before making any decision, ask yourself,





Folks, that question right there has been a game-changer for me.


Have you ever juiced an orange?

Bro… It sucks!

I believe in this phrase so much that I once bought 3 huge bags of oranges and some manual juicers for my kids. 

I made them juice all the oranges!!! 🍊🍊🍊🍊

At the end of it all, I asked them the simple question, Was the juice worth the squeeze?

With aching fingers and arms, two of the three that I gave the lesson to gave me a resounding “NO WAY!” while my oldest child, Bella (age 13) sipped her freshly squeezed orange juice with a contemptive satisfaction and shot me a “yeah…”.

You know how teenagers are. 😂🤣


Seriously though-

Asking yourself this question can save you a lot of money and keep you from a lot of headaches.

This question has saved me from getting involved in countless situations that I probably would have regretted later on.

Asking yourself if the juice is worth the squeeze is a simple but STRONG tool for your arsenal. 

Sometimes all you need is that one question, that one moment to snap you back to reality.

Sometimes asking this question even after you’ve stuck your foot in the pool will give you the mental clarity to not jump in.